To My Anonymous Commenter

Well firstly thanks for taking the time to read back over my blog. I'm secretly (well not so secretly now I guess) stoked that anyone takes the time to read my latest post let alone taking the time to read back over my past ramblings. I may not agree with what you said but I write what I think and not to make everyone agree with me so I'm happy to have other people write their points too.

I'm not going to comment on the drug debate cos I've said what I think and I don't know enough about the subject to get any further into it. To me it's a bit like the evolution/creation debate. I believe in creation. It's a faith thing. I won't enter into a debate with someone who believes in evolution because I don't know enough about the subject to intelligently back my views up. And really I'm not going to convince them of their ignorance just as they won't convince me of mine.

On a side note I'd like to add a couple of rules to commenting on my blog.
1. No name calling - we're all adults here
2. If you need to comment from anonymous could you please put your name at the end? Its a wee bit weak to make a statement and then not stand behind it and lets be honest, its down right annoying to not know who it is! This is not aimed at negative comments, it's aimed at ALL comments from "anonymous"! :)

Ok I'm stopping now. Not even sure if this all makes sense! My head hurts.

Thoughts from tonight

"One of the greatest feelings in life is the conviction that you have lived the life you wanted to live - with the rough and the smooth, the good and the bad - but yours, shaped by your own choices, and not someone else's." - Michael Ignatieff

"What has happened to you is not who you are" - Heather Brown

Opinion on stuff.co.nz

As usual my procrastination has led me to the stuff.co.nz website. A headline in the Editors' Picks grabbed my attention: Promoting promiscuity under guise of Safe Sex. This article started well and had the potential to have a few good points but lost me at the end with his sudden ending that it was a lesbian Labour MPs fault (he says her sexuality is relevant but I'm really not sure how, is he saying that homosexuals can't have a passion to help the damaged youth in NZ or that they can't have an opinion on family matters?)

I'm not really sure of the point of this post, I think I'm just disappointed that this guy had such a good platform and point to raise on the issue of teen pregnancy and all that (did anyone else feel sick ready about the abortion rates of 11-14 year olds in NZ doubling?) and he dropped the ball on this one by blaming it on someone that probably didn't deserve it and by not actually giving us solutions. Simply pointing out the problem is not enough in my opinion. It's like telling me I have a terminal disease and then sending me home when I should be also told what I can do to fix the problem or at least alleviate the pain.

Do people really get paid to write rubbish and unfinished articles these days? If so can I please apply for that job?

Things I love

It's been a crap day. Just rubbish. So I think I'm gonna make myself feel better by making a list of things I love (in no particular order). Feel free to comment with your lists.

1. Female Celebrites: Joe Cotton and Victoria Beckham. I don't care what everyone says. They're fantastic. They are gorgeous, funny, real/natural. I've read both of Victoria's books and she completely changed my views on magazines. I've gone from easily buying 2 or more a week to not being able to remember the last time I brought one. When I do read them I spend the whole time looking at how the photos have been edited and how absolutely ridiculous the stories are! These girls are cool.

2. Cooking shows - love them.

3. Games shows - just can't get enough!

4. Music videos - I'm amazed by these, I could probably watch them all day. How great to get a whole story/movie into 3-4 minutes. Of course I don't love all of them but lots are so good. My special favourite at the moment: Nickelback: Saving Me.

5. Rokocoko - he's so great. (Hahaha he's dreaming right now! Twitching in his sleep beside me)

6. CSI Las Vegas, Greys Anatomy and Prison Break.

7. My new boots. Yeah. Hot.

8. Music and Fashion. How amazing that after so long people are still coming out with new and different things.

9. Kiwi adverts. How funny are they! The people who come up with some ads are just so talented. Beyond me!

10. Making plans - how great that when things are at their lowest the thought of something that is coming up can make me feel a bit better.

11. Tattoos and piercings. When they're done right they so good. I have both. Love them.

12. My family, Lilly, Kaija and the others who know who they are. You know I wouldn't be here without you. (This is getting soppy, its not meant to)

13. Chocolate. Honestly. It's how I keep my stunning figure. Love it.

14. Travelling. I haven't done much yet but it's gonna be so great. I can't wait to see the things I've only ever seen pictures of. Look out Asia eh Kaija!

That's enough. I probably could keep going but I won't.

The Good Boyfriend vs The Bad Boyfriend

I have 2 cats. One is called Fergue, she lives with my parents and we've had her for about 16 years I think. The other is Rokocoko who I've talked about before. He's almost 10 months and lives with me at my flat. I have spent a lot of time with both of these cats recently and I have come up with an analogy to explain my relationship with these 2 cats. Mum and Dad have been heard to refer to Fergue as the Bad Boyfriend instead of by name ("Did the Bad Boyfriend sleep with you last night?").

Fergue

As you may have picked up Fergue is the Bad Boyfriend. I know she loves me. She's my cat and we've been together for years. But Fergue never shows me this. When I pick her up she meows like I'm hurting her, she sleeps with her back to me and she will never come when I call her. But I know she loves me cos she never runs away when I pick her up or put her in my bed. She purrs when I pat her, she sleeps on my bed and I've been told she mopes around and is generally pathetic when I'm not there. She's the Bad Boyfriend cos even though she loves me the most she will never show me.

Rokocoko
(Not such a good picture, he's eating my breakfast)

But Rokocoko is the Good Boyfriend. He's so so happy to see me even if I've only been out for a minute, he comes when I call him (not to anyone else), he purrs all the time and loves nothing better than to sleep as close to me as he can get. In recent times he's taken to following me EVERYWHERE! No matter where I am in the house he'll be there right by me. Lying on the floor, sitting on the couch, talking on the phone (I caught him actually trying to answer the phone the other day), in bed, the kitchen, the shower (yes the shower) or even (this is a little gross) the toilet. Today I could hear him meowing the whole time I was in the shower cos I'd shut the door and he couldn't get in to sit in his usual spot. Rokocoko is the Good Boyfriend because he loves me unconditionally and he's not afraid to show it.

And as always I love them both. A girl can't resist the boyfriend who adores who but also the bad boy (or girl in this case) that doesn't treat her so well but she still loves.

Just breathe

It's been a pretty massive last 10 days for my family, some friends and I. At this stage I won't go into all the details. Its been rough and it's not over yet for me but we'll be right! (She'll be right mate!)

The exciting thing though is that Kaija and I are going on holiday!!! We're spending 10 days in Thailand, Vietnam and Cambodia (not sure about Laos at this stage, not big fans of land mines) and then just under a week in Melbourne. It's gonna be AMAZING! We leave on the last day of my degree (Nov 26). We're going to go to Bangkok, Ho Chi Minh City, Phnom Penh, Siam Reap, Ko Samoi and see things like markets, the Killing Fields, the Bridge of the River Kwai, Angkor Wat, ride elephants and play on the beach. We're are of course overly excited which is expected but a little hard to handle when it's so far away!!!

I'm sure you'll all get bored of me going on about it so I'll stop for now. I need a wee rant. The other day saw a girl I know (We shall call Girl A) and she mentioned another girl (Girl B) and when I asked how Girl B was Girl A started to say something and then goes "no I won't gossip". Now this has been annoying me for SO long. Firstly, if you're not going to tell me something dont' be a loser and start saying it and then stop. Secondly, where is the line between gossip and generally catching up with people? If something is happening for Girl B I'd love to know about it cos she meant loads to me when we knew eachother. I have no way of finding Girl B so if I can hear how she's going from someone else that'd be great. And thirdly, how did I come out of the conversation looking like the bad person?? Girl A, in that one sentence ("I won't gossip") had made me look like such a bad person for wanting to gossip about people and all I had wanted to know was how Girl B was! Ugh!!!

Incidently Girl A is also the person who ALWAYS asks when they see me if I'm going to church. No I'm not going to church, I'm comfortable with this, it doesn't make me a lesser person at ALL, it doesn't mean that I don't believe in God and are no longer Christian. It means that at this stage of my life I haven't found anywhere that I feel safe and comfortable to be me. I don't "fit" in church and you can argue this point with me for as long as your heart desires but that's how it is. (Take a breath Jo). I think I will be avoiding Girl A like the plague in future.

I'm sure I had something else good to write about but I've forgotten it. Rokocoko is so so cool. Honestly.

Oh did I mention I'm going to Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia and Melbourne? Yip. Gonna be AWESOME! eh Kaija.

Hmmmm

I had my second exam today. Last one is on Wednesday. Will be so glad to have them finished! Interestingly enough Casey Laulala sat next to me in my exam today. Weird!

2 years today since I went flatting. It's gone so fast.

Sorry Kate, still nothing interesting to say.